TITLE: Creative Director and Founder, 8 Boxwood Lane Creative, LLC
FAMILY: Kirby (dad and husband), Stella (16) and Everett (13)
What’s the hardest part about juggling parenthood and your career?
It never seems like there is enough time for either. One is always waiting for you—the kids and or something from the to-do list for work.
What makes trying to balance both easier?
I’m self-employed, and I have some more flexibility compared to other parents who are required to be in an office or alternative location all day. That helps and makes balancing things a bit easier. I am still working full time, but as long as I’m getting the work done and delivered on time, it doesn’t really matter in some cases where, when or how I get it done ….
What do you love about being a parent?
By far, your kids are your greatest achievement. It is fascinating to watch them try to figure out the world, grow up and become people and personalities of their own. It is also amazing to think that you are responsible for these little people and that you will have so much influence on them—more than I think we even realize or comprehend.
What’s your biggest parenting fail?
I’m not gonna lie, there have been numerous. I don’t claim to be a perfect parent. In fact, there are so many fails that I’m not sure I can highlight just one. Recent ones that come to mind include screwing up schedules and activities, getting my kids to places where they need to be—late, letting my daughter walk out of the house and attend an event in something that was less than appropriate for where she was going, not staying on top of their school work.
How has your family been handling the pandemic?
We had a rough year. Both kids were in virtual school. My son, in particular, struggled as he is a social kid and did not have the patience or attention span to sit in front of a computer eight hours per day. We live in a remote area; we didn’t see many friends or people, and we took lockdown seriously. It was hard with both Kirby and me working from home and trying to keep the kids focused on school and remain active at the same time.
What’s the one thing you hope your children learn from you and your career?
I hope they see that it is important to do something that makes you happy while contributing to society. I hope they learn a good work ethic. I hope they learn that things take effort and time to prepare. I say this because social media provides kids with an artificial sense of reality.
FAMILY MEAL: Tacos (Baja fish tacos and veggie tacos)
FAMILY DESSERT: Pretty much anything Stella decides to bake is a favorite. When she puts her mind to a dessert project, it is always outstanding.
BOOK TO READ TOGETHER: Since the kids are older now, reading books as a family has dwindled. It’s more about Netflix these days.
WAY TO SPEND A WEEKEND WITH YOUR CHILDREN: We like to travel with our kids and always have fun exploring new towns or places when we are actually able to get away. We also enjoy the general day-to-day mayhem of teenagers’ lives—driving them around to see friends, play sports, etc. It means they are generally happy, and parents are not happy unless their kids are happy!
VACATION SPOT: Harbor Beach, Michigan, is probably our favorite spot. We have a family property up on the shores of Lake Huron, and my kids have been going there every summer since they were babies. Actually, I have been going there since I was a baby. It offers so much freedom for kids to be kids and enjoy the things they should be enjoying—outdoor play, the water, bicycling, sports. The weather is often cool, and it’s a nice escape (albeit far) from Baltimore’s sweltering summer heat. We all love it!